The last blog post discussed a few ways to organize an email to your co-parent to avoid conflict. This post will further consider this form of correspondence and give a few suggestions for the tone you take when sending emails. You have probably sent an email before that you wished you had not. You have also probably read more into a message you received and taken offense to the tone of it. This is a dilemma that many people face when in a co-parent situation, especially if both parents are equally invested in their child’s wellbeing.
One of the most important things you can do when communicating via email is to review it before hitting send. Read your email back to yourself, maybe even out loud. You can use an angry or sarcastic tone to hear how your co-parent may read your email. Determine whether or not your choice of words reflects aggression, even if it is not your intention to come off that way. Depending on your relationship, it is possible that your co-parent may read your words with some form of aggression.
Here are a few final suggestions when communicating with your your ex via email:
- Select your words as carefully as possible.
- Eliminate blame.
- Do not use an “all or nothing” attitude.
- Try not to make assumptions.
- Avoid any implied threats.
- Make sure you have not mentioned any “hot button” topics that are counterproductive to what you are trying to accomplish.
- Wait to hit send until you calm down.
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