While going through a divorce transition as a parent, you have the added responsibility of your children’s emotional well-being as well as your own.
Divorce can be a scary and confusing time for your kids, but you can take steps to help minimize the impact the divorce will have on them.
- Be as consistent as possible- Keep the kids in the same school, the same house and let them keep seeing the same friends. That way they can take refuge in the “normal” to take a break from the emotional turmoil that comes with their parents divorcing.
- Spend time with them- It may be easy to get caught up in appointments, logistics, and managing your own emotions, but your little ones need to be reminded that they are safe and secure. The best way to do that is to give them your undivided attention and spend quality time with them. If you need to, schedule a reminder to take a break and focus on your kids.
- Find others in similar circumstances- Try joining a divorce support group. Your kids might appreciate having new friends that know what they are going through.
- Stay as impartial as possible about their feelings- Give your kids a safe place to express their feelings without being judged. They will be less likely to act out and more likely to share if they know that they will not be criticized for their honesty.
It is your responsibility to make sure that your children’s well-being is taken care of during your divorce. If they feel important, loved and safe, you will be helping them heal as quickly as possible.
If have questions about your divorce and your kids, contact our Portland OR divorce attorneys here.