Change does not begin in adulthood. The need for us as humans to deal with the “new” and leave behind the “old” begins very early on in life. Children are faced with the fact that they will have to give up their playtime in order to begin learning in school. Then, there is the change that occurs each time they move schools, from elementary school to middle school, and middle school to high school. Teenagers may attempt to change themselves to fit in instead of being who they are. They may resist their true selves and try to make themselves into something completely different so they are accepted among their peers.
Teaching children how to handle change well and be individuals may help them grow into adults that are ok without impermanence. These life skills can help when dealing with a divorce.
In divorce the changes continue over time. It is not just about changes associated with becoming single and making decisions on your own. Much of the process of divorce is one of grieving and letting go of what was, to accept what life is now. Change is a universal fact of nature and embracing it might help us all adapt. Not doing so may further victimize ourselves, and keep us from moving forward.
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