We know you’re concerned about your kids during your divorce and have your children’s best interest at heart.
We also know that you are a human going through a difficult transition. Calm discussions with your ex can become heated and before you know it, your little ones find themselves witnessing a nasty argument between you and your ex.
What effect will exposing your children to your anger have on them?
Recent studies show that fighting around your kids will do more damage than the divorce itself.
Kids that are around frequent fighting are more likely to be depressed, show signs of aggression, and suffer in school.
In order to help prevent your kids from the negative effects of your anger, we have three quick questions to ask yourself when you start to feel your blood boiling:
- Can the kids hear us fighting? Don’t argue with your ex where your kids are within earshot- including phone conversations.
- Am I using my child as a sounding board? Even if your ex isn’t around, keep your anger in check when discussing your ex with your children. Venting about their other parent will only serve to confuse your kids and cause more stress during an already stressful time.
- Is it worth it? Are the angry words that are bubbling to the surface worth the anxiety or hurt you may cause your children?
If the answer to any of these three questions is “yes,” you’ll need to take a step back, take a deep breath and try to control yourself. You’ll save your kid’s from being exposed to a fight, and you may avoid an unnecessary argument with your ex.
If you need help navigating the complexities of divorce, contact our Portland OR divorce lawyers here.