Are you considering divorce, but have yet to discuss it with your spouse or attorney? The next series of blog posts will cover the steps you should consider if you have decided that divorce is the only option for your relationship.
Once you have emotionally admitted to yourself that divorce is the best course of action for you, there are some things you should do to ensure that this process is not harder than it has to be for your family. Since no two relationships are exactly the same, your process will likely be a personalized one that fits all of the qualities of your unique situation.
First you should consider your approach. If you have not yet discussed this decision with your spouse, you should begin determining what you will say. How will you bring up this topic in a way that allows you to feel safe? It is important to stay calm and attempt to discuss it without causing emotional damage to yourself, your spouse, or your children if you have them. It may be a good idea to have an overnight bag packed and a place to stay in the event that you have to leave quickly. Also have a plan for what you will do with the children, will they be coming with you following this discussion or will they stay with your spouse?
Once this discussion has taken place, it is a good idea to begin the planning process for where everyone will live. It is important for this plan to include your budget because now you will be potentially paying for separate living arrangements. Another thing to consider is a post office box. If you are in fact moving out into another home, it may be a good idea to invest in this because you will want all of your important documentation to be in one place. This is also a valid option for people who have yet to discuss divorce plans with their spouse and want a secure place to store things.
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