According to Portland divorce law attorneys, divorce can happen to anyone in the family, including grandparents.
In part one of this two-part series, we told you about the “gray divorce” and why it happens. Now, we’re going to offer some tips on how to deal with grandma and grandpa calling it quits.
Grandfathers might want to be especially aware of what a divorce can do to the dynamics of their family. Studies have shown that divorced grandfathers are more likely to be long-distance grandfathers, and uninvolved grandfathers, compared to divorced grandmothers.
Experts recommend that you tell the grandkids the same type of things you’d tell them if their parents were splitting. That is the divorce is between grandma and grandpa, it’s not about you, and your grandparents will always be your grandparents.
The Adult Children
Adult children may want to avoid taking sides and having in-depth conversations with their divorcing parents.
The wisdom that comes with adulthood may cause an adult child to blame one parent or the other or may lead them to believe they can fix the situation, but they probably can’t. It might be better to accept the change and put all their energies into supporting those affected by the divorce, like their parents and their children.
It is suggested that divorcing grandparents continue to attend family gatherings and they do so at the first available opportunity. Getting that initial meeting out of the way will make the family feel more comfortable. Try not to wait for big events like a wedding or graduation.
Attorneys can help with the law aspects, but it’s family, in the Portland area or across the country, that has to help one another through grandma’s and grandpa’s divorce.
For great legal help, seek the help of an esteemed family law attorney, contact Ronald Johnston here.