Getting a divorce in Beaverton OR is difficult, but with teenagers, it might feel especially awful. Our family law attorney would like to highlight the importance of dads helping their teenagers cope with divorce.
You may think they’re mature, but teens still have a lot of growing up to do. Divorce greatly affects their young life and they still need your love and support.
In this entry, the final installment of a three-part series, we continue our look at how dads can help their teenage children cope with divorce.
Let Your Teenager Speak Freely
In part one of this series, we asked you NOT to talk to your teenager about your divorce (at least the emotional side). If you need to get things off your chest you should do so to a friend, family member, or counselor.
Your teenage child should have no such restrictions. Allow them to speak openly and honestly about their feelings concerning your divorce.
Be prepared, the conversation will get raw. They might say some things you don’t want to hear. That’s okay. This isn’t about you. It’s about them. As dad, you’re there to listen and give them the emotional support they need.
Seek Help from Other Adults in Your Teen’s Life
Your teen’s school should know about your divorce. Teachers and counselors are not only equipped to speak to teens on the subject but they can also be on the lookout for signs of depression and aggression.
As for the other adults in your teen’s life, one or two might be able to step up and take on more of a mentor role. Not only will they be a positive influence on your teen, they will also give your child another person to talk to about your divorce.
Don’t Neglect Yourself
You can’t be a good dad if your divorce has made your depressed and mopey. Without ignoring your teenage offspring, or any other responsibilities, do what you have to do to take care of yourself. Beaverton family law attorneys are telling you to follow the same advice you’re giving your teenager.
Only when you’re feeling good and positive about yourself can you help your teenage child do the same.
To read part one of this series click here.
To read part two of this series click here.
If you’re a dad going through, or about to go through a divorce, contact Beaverton Family Law Attorney Ronald Johnston here.