Maintaining your family relationships after your divorce is finalized can be a difficult task. This is especially true if your child is resisting the visitation agreement that you made together. Many factors might come into play as reasons behind a child not wanting to have contact with one of their parents. Some of these reasons might be environmental.
Since children often mirror what they see and hear, you might want to check out your own behaviors before simply thinking that they do not want to see the other parent.
Here are a few questions to ask yourself if your child is suddenly resisting visitation:
- Does your child seem to act as though they are feeling guilty or disloyal when they leave your presence? You may want to consider if your own behaviors are attributing to this guilt.
- Is the structure or discipline process vastly different at the other parent’s house? Children may benefit from rules and discipline being similar between homes.
- Is it possible that your child is holding the other parent responsible for the divorce? As children grow older, they sometimes can develop strong judgments about the outcomes in their life. When this happens they might blame the one parent who they perceive to be responsible for the divorce.
When co-parents are proactive, they can often resolve the problem together. In some situations, the guidance of a mediator, divorce coach, or therapist can be beneficial.
Our next blog post will further discuss the ways to effectively manage visitation resistance. Click here to contact Ronald Johnston Law for your divorce in Hillsboro OR, we are dedicated to your family.