Divorces involving children resulting in shared custody can be a challenge. As the non-custodial parent, it may be tempting to squeeze in as much fun as you can when you and your child are spending time together.
Whether your motivation is guilt, manipulation, or vindication, indulging your child with gifts and good times isn’t healthy and won’t build the long term relationship with your child that they need and deserve.
To create a positive and strong relationship with your child, it’s critical to stay involved in your child’s ordinary life. Helping with homework, giving them chores, and tucking them in will help them feel secure and build a healthy relationship.
Children don’t need lavish displays or constant entertainment from you. They need leadership, consistent discipline, and structure. In the parenting world, structure often translates to love.
If you are contemplating divorce in Portland Oregon, contact Ronald Allen Johnston here. With over 35 years of experience, he can advise you on the best way to handle a divorce involving children.