It is not uncommon for people who are going through divorce to experience some depression. The level may vary from person to person, but it is a very normal part of the process. In some situations, this depression can linger and begin to control your life. It is important to face the situations you are in head on, and make your peace in order to truly move on.
Here are five tips to assist you in this process.
- Sit down with a pen and paper and write a goodbye letter to your spouse. Acknowledge all of the changes, from the people to the routine that will no longer be the same. Letting go of your role as a spouse and accepting a new role is a great thing to write about too. This can take courage, but it helps people face reality and begin to say goodbye to the past. If writing a letter isn’t for you, finding another meaningful way to face the loss can be a substitute.
- Write a hello letter to your future, this can include new things that you can do, see, or people you can meet now that you are free of an unhappy marriage. It is a great way to set new goals and find new things to be excited about.
- Pay attention to your “self talk,” this is your cheerleader in your head that either drags you down or props you up. Finding a way to uplift your spirit and talk yourself into being excited for what’s to come.
- Another great way to support yourself after falling into a divorce is to rally your village. Surround yourself with loving people who care for you and are there for you. People who you listen to you cry, hug you, and go out with you when you are feeling lonely. Creating a support group and staying busy can give you the extra confidence and remind you that there is a wonderful life ahead.
If you find yourself having problems with depression or moving on, seeking professional help is never a bad idea. Some people feel that only weak people seek help, but it takes great strength and courage to know and admit that you need some extra support.
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