A while back, we posted about the benefits of using a divorce ritual to signify the end of a marriage. This post aims to go into greater detail about how to perform this ceremony.
In the event of a pending divorce, the separation of the family is a major life transition and many believe it should be treated as such. This ritual can help gain closure for everyone involved, as well as assisting both individuals in looking forward to their lives as single people. This two home family ritual can also be performed with children involved. It can help them understand that even though their parents are no longer married, a relationship still remains.
The Two Home Family Ritual is meant to symbolize the beginning of the new family configuration. Using candlelight during the ceremony can gently facilitate the end of one relationship and the beginning of another, and make room for a new two household family.
To begin the ceremony, you will light a large candle that represents your marriage. During this time you may choose to say something positive about the day you were married. Your spouse may do the same. This candle represents you as husband and wife. Next, each of you will take their smaller candle and light it from the larger candle. The point of this is to represent you and your spouse taking yourselves back, no longer being part of a union. You may want to state the positive things about this taking place, if not, silence is fine too. Lastly, one of you will say something about the divorce such as: “We were divorced on September 27, 2014.” Finally, the large candle should be put out.
You can read more about this type of ritual at the Cooperative Parenting Blog. This event can be tailored to fit the needs of your family. If you are in need of a divorce attorney in Hillsboro Oregon, click here to read more.