There are many stereotypes that go along with divorce. One that might not often be discussed is one that is cast upon non-custodial mothers. Many people consider that when a woman does not have primary custody of her children, that something must be wrong with her. Maybe she has a drug or alcohol problem or lives an unsafe lifestyle, or maybe she is cold hearted and simply does not love her children the way a mother should. These stereotypes do not ring true in all situations. This opinion may partly be due to the fact that in most cases, women do receive primary custody over their children. These events lead us to look at a non-custodial father and say “oh that’s too bad” about their lack of time with their children. When the social stigma causes us to raise an eyebrow if the situation is reversed.
Fathers and mothers are both important aspects of child development, and when determining custody, the child should be at the forefront of the decision making process. If you are a father or mother seeking primary custody of your child, or want to work out a shared custody arrangement, contact Divorce Attorney Ronald Allen Johnston in Beaverton Oregon today. To read more about him, click here.