There are many reasons why parents may divorce. Typically it is a result of fighting, anger, or a lack of communication. Divorce can also occur when one spouse partakes in an act that the other cannot live with. Sometimes nothing in particular occurred and parents simply determine that their marriage is over.
Did you know that it is common for children and teens to feel that the divorce is somehow because of them? For this reason, you may want to make sure that the communication field is open and that you talk with your children about the decision to separate. Showing the children that the decision to separate was due to issues between you and your partner as opposed to them can help.
Sometimes kids might feel guilty about what happened between their parents, or wish they had done more to prevent arguments or problems by being better behaved. It might be a good idea to reinforce to children that the decisions adults make about divorce are their own.
When parents are divorcing, children may experience many feelings. Emotions can change a lot, and feelings of stress may creep up. They also might feel protective of one parent or blame the other for the situation. Feelings of abandonment, fear, worry, and guilt may also be an issue.
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