So you and your children have just had your lives rocked with the trauma of a divorce. You are likely feeling a variety of emotions, and so are your children. Besides the sadness, everyone is now experiencing the changes and transitions brought on by the divorce. This blog post will offer a few tips for getting things back to as close to normal as possible for you and your family.
A few things to consider following your divorce are:
- Life will return to normal, although “normal” may evolve into something different from what you had originally hoped before your divorce.
- Reassure and listen. Make sure your kids understand that your divorce is not their fault.
- Maintain stability and routines. Try to keep your kids’ daily and weekly routines as normal and familiar as possible.
- Offer consistent discipline. This might be difficult now that your kids may share time with both parents separately. Try to make sure to agree in advance on bedtimes, curfews, and other everyday decisions so your children know what to expect.
- Let your children know they can rely on you. Making and keep realistic promises can help your child begin to feel stable again.
- Try not to overly confide in them about your feelings about the divorce.
- Do your best to not involve your children in the conflict. Avoid arguing with or talking negatively about the other parent in front of your kids. Don’t use them as spies or messengers, or make them take sides.
Every divorce is unique, and every family experiences divorce in a different way. It might be hard to get back to normal but your trusted family attorney in Beaverton OR wants you to know that it is possible. Click here to read more about how they can help you move on.